BIPOLAR: THE IN-BETWEEN TIMES
The brain is made with the grey matter (the processor) on the exterior and the white matter (the wiring) to the centre. There are 40 billion neurones in the brain (many more than the population of the world) and they are constantly making connections with each other. There is the slightest imbalance in my brain, but it affects me in quite extreme ways.
We think in words and hence remember in words. We do not remember when we are very young because we can not speak and we do not have words. Most people’s first memories are from the age of three plus: when we first learn words. Vocabulary is essential for memory. Due to my disorder (and I think ‘disorder’ is a succinct description) I have a very different thought structure as my mood changes: a different vocabulary. I can’t remember what I was feeling at a specific time if I am not in the same ‘frame of mind’ as that period. Maybe it is too simplistic to put it down to a different vocabulary at different mood points that makes it impossible to know how I was feeling at a time when I am in the same mood: seeing a hazy memory as a spectator looking over the experience. Mood, or ‘frame of mind’, do not really do my extreme alterations of mood (perception of reality) justice but I lack the vocabulary to express myself as I wish. I am not at my sharpest at present.
I am in one of those in-between times. I could probably give this a name and categorise it if I kept a mood diary (as many have suggested). I haven’t had the time to fill in a diary when on a high, and on a low I can not get myself a glass of water (sometime, when I have managed to make it to the toilet I have not wiped myself properly: it is not important).
I feel in a more primitive stage of my cycle of late. I feel a great deal of anger. When I say, “I know where you live” I don’t mean it as a threat: I mean it as a call to arms. I will cut you up. I will cut you to pieces. I will turn you into dog food: not even your close family will recognise you. I, with my mental problems, will spend a year or two between quilted wall reading whatever I desire. Within two I will have convinced them that I am fit, and ready, to return to society: full of compassion and remorse!
You will still be undergoing reconstructive surgery. I will make sure that you are aware of my release. You will install a state of the art security system on your home and every time a cat walks through your back garden it will light-up like Wembley. This will not help you.
You will have to leave your house from time-to-time and your family will still have their daily chores; school and the like. I have no problem with them but I can get to you through them: I won’t give it a second thought.
TWO
Sorry for the rant. I feel better now. I have a problem with my anger when I am having trouble focusing and I am feeling more assertive. This period comes before the high. During this period I need one thing to focus on, obsessively. I was focusing on a idea for a film at the time and that was the only thing I could think of. When in a period of focused, deep thought I can not have my thoughts interrupted. It is a similar feeling to being woken from a dream in which you have almost reached a conclusion: confusion and annoyance. At the beginning of this period I am less assertive and I am unable to converse with others: I am very timid and self conscious, often not leaving the house for days-on-end. The transition between this period and the second stage of the mood is signified by restless nights full of vivid dreams. The dreams merge with reality and I can not differentiate the two. It is a strange period of metamorphosis and snowballs until there are no boundaries between; dream, reality, television, television, memories, literature, etc. I have a couple of nights, maybe more, when I rock in the chair and question everything I think I knew previously: tears and musical loops. Eventually I reach the second stage and I feel cleansed, in a fashion, and I have direction (although often misconceived).
I forgot to say that the first part of this stage follows the low: not directly but soon afterwards. There is a epoch before this stage. It is another period of searching for myself and trying to get a handle on my core beliefs. I am not going to try and explain the highs and lows hear. It is impossible to explain the depressed times to someone how has not experienced it. The closest thing to depression, although not the same, is the grief you feel when someone close to you dies. The strange thing about depression when you are bipolar is that there is no reason. It often descends when everything is going well in your life (I have felt manically happy at the time of a close friend’s death, or when homeless). My mood have no relation to what is happening in my life. I sometimes think of it as a film with the wrong soundtrack.
“I’m fine”. Sometime you just can’t pretend. Making pleasantries doesn’t come naturally and a smile is out of the question. At these times, not always ‘down’ times, the lines don’t come out. It is like stage fright. Everybody has a role and the lines that you have worked out as your stock answers do not come to mind and you see them for what they are: fake. You can not bring yourself to utter them. What has made you the person others perceive you as are nothing but rehashed rebuts. On the ‘up’ times my mind works faster than everyone else’s and I am surprised by the wit and speed of thought. I am often shocked by that emitted from my own mouth. In the second part of the in-between stage I am often surprised by the words I say, but rarely in a good way. I think there is maybe one or two different stages before I get to the high and firing on all cylinders, but I haven’t mapped these out, and probably never will. I think of these periods as transitional turbulence or no-man’s land.
All I am trying to say is that it is not all ‘manic-depesive’, with no in-between (I much prefer the term manic depression to bipolar). It is a very complex thing that I still can’t quite get to grips with but writing this out has made it a bit easier for me to understand, even if it hasn’t made it any clearer for you. I know this sound, and probably is, very self-indulgent but fuck you. I originally started writing this to try and explain myself to my brother. I won’t send it to him because he will criticise me for being self obsessed. Maybe I am but I have spent too long lying about my illness: pretending to have stomach problems for years to disguise my true ailment. Now I am free, mad and proud!